There probably isn’t a person on the planet that hasn’t had a ‘bad hair’ day. Whether you have gone to a hair cutter for ‘just a trim’ and left feeling like a skinned cat, or you have a cowlick section of hair that stands at odds with your will regularly, there are probably a few days in your life that can easily be labeled as ‘bad hair’ days.
My story is I was born with mouse-brown, fairy-fine, spaghetti-straight hair. Now, as a post-menopausal, thyroidal woman, I can truly say I am having a few more ‘bad hair’ days than ever before. ‘Bad’ are the days I find my hair has just leapt off my head, on its own accord, and plugs up the sink.
Taking a deep breath I remind myself:
1. A bad hair day is not a bad life.
2. Don’t sweat the small stuff, and hair is considered small stuff.
My hair drama came to a head recently in a conversation with one of my grandgirls:
Annie: “Granny, why do you have old lady hair?”
Me, aka Granny K: “What’s old lady hair?”
Annie: “The kind you can see through!”
As a lifelong metaphysician, I found myself searching for deeper meaning to my noticeably thinning (see through) hair and the Rogaine ads that have started to follow me every time I log on to Facebook.
Sending up a snivel-prayer, I said: “Oh Good God, help me comb through the messages you would have me see. Please send me Guides.”
Within minutes of my mediation, three leading ladies popped into my awareness: Dolly Pardon, Roseanne Roseannadanna, and Sunny Dawn Johnston. The minute the divas flashed into my mind, I knew why they were my in-the-moment teachers.
Dolly Parton has always been one of my favorite country singers. I have admired her spunk, her talent and for the way she allows whatever flashed through her mind at the moment to come out with a giggle. One of her infamous quotes is: “The higher the hair, the closer to God.” She said it, I believed it, and have laughed often about how high I love to spray-tease my hair.
Roseanne Roseannadanna is someone who has always made me ‘snaugh’: Laugh so hard I snort, then laugh because I snorted, then snort because I laughed. When I think of this character who is now serving from heaven, I see her outrageous hair, I hear her whiny voice, and remember her perspective: “It’s always something!” In the scheme of things, I’ll take my hair ‘blesson’ vs. Roseanne Roseannadanna thick-nest.
The BIG ah-ha to my ‘what’s-the-big-hairy-deal’ question came from watching Sunny Dawn Johnston during her post video about WHY she choose to do a Lifetime made-for-TV special called: A SEANCE WITH . . .
To make a great story short: Sunny explains she had been invited to Hollywood to do a pilot reality-TV show and accepted the invitation with the prayer that Spirit would use her in a BIG way. The details are really fun to listen to . . . One of the funniest parts was when Sunny tells about how the professional make-up artist began to redo her hair. From a deep place of honesty Sunny affirms: “I like by hair BIG. The more and more the make-up artist combed out my hair, the more and more I realized I needed to surrender. So I stopped looking in the mirror, and went on national TV trusting my hair to Spirit.”
Wow, that’s trust in my book! As a Leo-born woman, my hair has always been a ‘thing’ for me. When I listened to Sunny Dawn Johnston share her experience all the tiny hairs on my head stood up. The message I heard was: Whatever you want of your hair, you want that in your relationship with Spirit. Sounds a little crazy, doesn’t it . . . Give me a chance to explain:
Sunny wants BIG hair. Sunny declared that she wants a BIG relationship with the Divine.
Dolly Pardon wants HIGHER hair. I think it is probably safe to say Dolly wants (and has) a relationship with a HIGHER source. Listen to the words of the music she writes. (Did you know she has written a HIGHER number of country songs than another other country artist in history?)
When I quizzed my sister, Barb, about what she wants from her hair, she said: “It want to get back to my hair being natural.” Using a Life Coaching approach, I asked: “Would it be a stretch to say you are craving a more ‘natural’ relationship with Spirit?” Wide eyed, Barb confirmed: ‘Exactly! I hadn’t put it in those words . . . Now that you put it that way, yes, that’s exactly what I desire.”
I asked myself: What do I want my hair to be? My answer was: “I want my hair to be there. I want my hair to be full.” In staying with my weird-metaphorical logic: I want my relationship with Spirit to be there . . .and, I want it to be full.
Are you willing to consider the question: How do you want your hair? And, whatever the answer is, take that adjective and ask: Do you desire to have —insert adjective—– with Spirit?
In doing my research on what I am calling The Samson Effect, I have gotten some very interesting answers to the question: “How do you want your hair to be?”
From those answer, I asked: “Does this coaching question work?” Do I want my relationship with Spirit to be beautiful, in-control and well-behaved?
Ok, so maybe not all adjectives fit! The important question is: How do I want my relationship to be with Spirit?
Recently Melissa Corter, a Soul Artist Photographer, captured me and my hair as I was in a moment-of-connection with my sister. At first I was critical of my hair sticking up, in an out-of-control, ill-behaving way. Then I asked: “Do I want an in-control, well-behaved relationship with Spirit? NO! I want to be connected at all times, even if it is by a hair-antenna.”
You probably won’t see The Samson Effect: How Your Hair Can Bring You Closer to God on the New York Time best-sellers list anytime soon. However, we can learn from Samson, the Biblical figure, who lost his physical powers and prowess when he had a ‘bad hair’ day. His life was restored when he humbled himself enough to say: “Oh Good God, forgive my humanness! Allow my vanity to be transformed into my strength.”
My prayer is this: May my faith grows as I remember the very hairs on my head are counted and known by the Divine.
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KC Miller is the committed metaphysician and author of Toe Reading, Are You Walking Your Destined Path. She is currently working with Cheryl Speen and Nancy Newman on a new book, The Tao of Toe Reading: A ‘way’ to Understand the Soul. FOLLOW KC’s personal Facebook page or LIKE her fan page: KC Miller ~ Instrument of Spirit