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Three Great Ways NOT to Write a Book

Posted by on June 2, 2014

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How many people have you ever heard say:  “I’m writing a book”, and yet the book never seems to get written.  To be totally honest, I am one of them, therefore I am an authority on the topic of how NOT to write a book.  These are three ways to NOT write a book:

1. Anounce you are writing a book!  Whether it is conscious or subconscious, a saboteuristic phenomenon many times occurs when we announce we are going to step closer our Light.  It’s almost as if we become a victim of ‘spiritual terrorism’, meaning that our potential Light somehow threatens the mediocrity we have come to consider our comfort zone.   As crazy as it sounds, an internal war wages between becoming amazing and remaining the same.  So then what happens?  Our internal messages get jammed up and nothing comes out onto the pages destined to be our book(s).

When we look at the etymology of the word sabotage it may have comes from the Netherlands, around the 15th century, when workers would throw their wooden shoes, known as sabots, into the gears of the textile looms to break the cogs.  Why would they do this?  People were afraid the imminent industrialization would change things so dramatically they wouldn’t have a place in the workforce.

Is it possible when we are writing a book we begin to live in the future, and we become afraid things will change so dramatically that we won’t be comfortable in our new place in the world?  Maybe! So what’s the solution?  First, stop living in the future; more than half of the things we are afraid will happen never happen!  Secondly, remember Marianne Williamson cautioned us about this fear.  She taught us: “It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually who are we not to be?“  We could ask yet another question: “Who are we not to be a published author?”


2.  Live an unexamined life! Socrates once stated, “The unexamined life is not worth living!”   He didn’t say the unexamined life is less meaningful than it could be. NO, he simply and clearly says it’s not even worth living.

If I were to follow the lead of this enigmatic historical figure then I would boldly state: “If we don’t write the books we carry in our heart, we don’t examine our lives.”What Socrates and I have in common is we believed the purpose of human life is to question life!  As a Life Coach and teacher, bold enough to bill myself as an ‘Instrument of Spirit’, part of my dharma is to inspire and assist others in growing toward greater understanding of their true spiritual self.  This requires taking the time to examine and reflect upon our lives and ask the really tough questions.  Writing a book is a commitment to deeply examine our lives, which can create a certain amount of anxiety within.  It is certainly safest, and most comfortable, to NOT write a book.

Robert Gerzon, a holistic psychotherapist and Life Coach, wrote a well-acclaimed book entitled Finding Serenity in the Age of Anxiety.  He teaches that ‘Natural Anxiety’ is the healthy signal warning of danger or potential opportunities; ‘Toxic Anxiety’ is the dysfunctional overreaction that can leads to procrastination, addictions, and dysfunction; and ‘Sacred Anxiety’ is the deepest inner yearning for meaning and oneness with the Divine.  It is Dr. Gerzon’s theory ‘Sacred Anxiety’ leads to serenity.

The real question I ask myself, and invite you to ask as well, is this:  Is the procrastination we experience in NOT writing our books ‘Natural Anxiety’, ‘Toxic Anxiety’, or ‘Sacred Anxiety’.  By asking the question I believe we can ascend to ‘Sacred Anxiety’, allowing ourselves to find meaning in our writing and our non-writing journey

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3. Write with the intention of NOT to publish a book. IF you are on a spiritual quest, and mastering non-attachments is one of the things you aspire to in this lifetime, imagine writing a book, fully intending NOT to publish it! Wow, not that’s total surrender to the process of non-attachment, isn’t it?

The idea of not publishing a book came forth recently when I was coaching a hypnotherapist who was hearing the voice of Spirit dictating profound messages into the ears of her heart.  She knew she had an important book within, yet the thought of writing it created such anxiety that every part of her life was being affected.  Agreeing she had all the answers within, we began to brainstorm possible solutions to her book-writing dilemma. Surely it was the Divine speaking through me as I heard the words come out my mouth asking:  “What if the most intimate thing you could do is write down the whispers of Spirit and not publish them?”

We all have a book or two within us. Whether they ever become published is really not important; what’s important is that our stories are honored.  One of the most dramatic quotes I occasionally reflect on was written by a Jewish man named Franz Kafka, famous for writing novels exploring the human struggle for understanding.

An edited version of one of his quotes is: “If the book we are reading does not wake us, as with a fist hammering on our skulls, then why do we read it? Good God, if we have no such books that make us happy we could, if need be, write ourselves. A book must be an ice axe to break the sea frozen inside us.”

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The sea frozen inside of me is thawing . . . I’m ready to get out of my own way and let my writing flow. One of ‘ice axes’ for me was reading the book Think Like a Publisher: 33 Essential Tips to Write, Promote and Sell Your Book by Randy Davila is the President of Hierophant Publishing and Hampton Roads Publishing Company. It’s a very bottom-line, one-stop guide to understanding the book business and the necessary steps to become a successful author. Between the two publishing houses, Randy has overseen the publication of books by authors such as Eckhart Tolle, Byron Katie, Neale Donald Walsch, Richard Bach, Jack Canfield, don Miguel Ruiz Jr. and many, many others. Imagine some of the ‘other authors’ Randy Davila publishes being you and I?

To receive the introduction to his book and first three tips that might begin to warm the ‘frozen sea’ of your writing go to his website and give him your email: or go to his Facebook Fan Page entitled Think Like a Publisher for regular tips he posts.



While there are many reasons to NOT write a book, there are many more reasons for writing one. Whether you choose to publish what you write or just consider it an intimate love letter to the Divine, let’s write!  Blessings!


KC Miller is the founder of Southwest Institute of Healing Arts, a national accredited college for Holistic wellness and Spiritual Studies.  KC is a Life Coach, Teacher and author of two self-published books: Toe Reading: Are You Walking Your Destined Path and Myotherapy: A 7-Step Process for Release.  She is currently writing several new books.  FOLLOW KC Miller on her personal Facebook page or to become a fan LIKE  KC Miller – Instrument of Spirit on Facebook.

7 Responses to Three Great Ways NOT to Write a Book

  1. Jessie Cleveland


    Thank you for this post! I am a recently fiction published author but have been leaning towards my non fiction manuscript a lot lately. I feel that when we focus too much in the future as you said. It causes anxiety. I have been processing and letting go of things in my life, that is key to accelerating my life forward and opening up knowledge that helps with writing my new book. I find a lot of people want to write but they don’t know where to start or they are stuck in the planning stage for years. If we let go and just write, then the words will flow, but until we can get out of living in fear and into living in love, books will go unwritten. I agree, we all have at least two books in us. Let’s write! Namaste.

  2. Aandra Bohlen

    What a wonderfully expressed article! This article is the exact type of spiritual inspiration I was needing this morning. When you think about how to start writing a book, it’s important to remember that the real blessing is that we fully express what’s in our heart. One of my favorite stories about Maya Angelou, when guest speaking on Wayne Dyer’s radio show was from a caller who was concerned about why her book was sitting unpublished. Maya Angelou responded with ” A bird doesn’t sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a song.” Thank you for sharing these powerful steps in manifesting our spiritual soul script! XOXOXO

  3. kcmiller

    Aandra, thanks for reminding me of the quote by Maya Angelou ~ ” A bird doesn’t sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a song.” YES, that fits perfectly with today’s download. Blessings : ) KC

  4. Martina Brackney(Breeze)

    Thank you! I especially like the part about not evoking an ego battle, which is what keeps us from doing in the first place. I do like your blog, style & range of content – on topic.

  5. kate

    KC…of course your words inspire and create a clear vision and perfect description of obstacles that have been in the way of my vision for years. I have been blessed having you in my life as someone I admire greatly as a mentor, teacher, philosopher and friend. You are such a light. I have kept my light under a shroud for too long…I need to share…it’s I my nature. Beautiful inspiration from a beautiful spirit encapsulated in a gorgeous human form. I can’t wait to start SWIHA’s life coaching program. Continued blessings! Kate

  6. Heidi Lynn Andersen

    KC, I am happy that my friend Shelley pointed me in the direction of this post. I have been on a similar journey over the past two years of not telling people I was writing a book, examining my life over and over through the process of writing and now that it is completed, practicing non-attachment to the outcome. For me, writing my book has been a way to create meaning from one of my life’s great losses. I am thankful for the ability to create from the ashes. I will be curious to see what your next thawed creation is, and let’s encourage Shelley to follow these words of wisdom, as well! That amazing woman has a book inside of her waiting to burst forth.

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